Summarizing the Tenth Step

Like the tree blown by the wind, we bend, we adapt.

Like the tree blown by the wind, we bend, we adapt.

“Our first effort is to calm ourselves”….

Now and then, my old friends TheDailyOhm.com carry the message so well that I feel compelled to share it with you. You can sign up at their website for daily mail and I recommend it. In the meantime, here are their thoughts on Patience – a calming virtue we all ought to aspire to acquire:

November 2, 2014
Patience as a Balm
If you are feeling quick tempered today, you may react strongly when circumstances do not match your expectations. You may become impatient with others, particularly those with whom you share close relationships. Endeavoring to be aware of your emotions at all times can help you understand what is triggering your feelings. Taking a few moments to breathe deeply and compose yourself can help you approach others and deal with your situation with more patience. If you choose not to react emotionally to challenging people or circumstances today, you will likely experience a sense of peace. Remember that even though a person or a situation may trigger emotions within you, your emotions are still your responsibility and you should deal with them in healthy ways.

Patience can be the balm that soothes your emotions and makes you more agreeable to others when conflicts arise. When you exercise patience, you think before you speak or act and take a moment to consider whether your feelings merit your acting upon them or if they will naturally abate as time passes. Your responses are based upon conscious thought rather than the heady push of rash emotions. Your loved ones will also sense your willingness to look past the heat of the moment and be willing to do the same. The patience you exercise today will allow you to interact well with others in difficult situations.


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Hazelden is on the same page. Here are their reflections on patience for the day:

Today’s thought from Hazelden is:

All things pass… Patience attains all that it strives for.
— St. Teresa of Avila

Some days, it seems like our struggles will never end. The pain, the loss, the heartaches, the failures we can recount them all. Where is the strength to go on?

What if we began our day by acknowledging that all things pass? That given time, effort, and patience, we can accept or accomplish most anything? But patience does not mean complacency. On the contrary, each day in recovery requires a new attitude, a new outlook that in time generates its own positive energy for growth and change.

We need strength and patience not only in the difficult moments, but in the easier ones – the days of comfort when things seem to be going almost too well.

Soon, we can look back across the months and see growth. As the skills of the dancer or the carpenter increase with time and patience, so do our skills in recovery. As we grow in recovery, becoming ever more patient, we become ever more in tune with our Higher Power and the promise of a new life.

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