We Recovery persons have behavioral tendencies that we have developed over our years of addiction/alcoholism etc. – and,….we want to change them. In order to do that we have to “become entirely ready” and that takes practice-persistence-patience and prayer.
Here are some perspectives on that theme from our old friends TheDailyOhm.com. I’m not sure that improvement can be made on their rendition – take a read and see if you agree. I am sending you all a little YouTube Meditation Video and sound to assist in finding the calm, always aided by the process of deep,slow breathing and conscious muscle relaxing from toe to head.
The Twelve Steps and Traditions are the 80 year old principles that have helped a great many of us in finding some spiritual balance in our recovery. I wrote a book about them:
http://www.livingtwelvest… You can see examples of the drawings and excerpts from the daily affirmations at the site, as well as my blog which is archived back to 2010. 40,000 readers have visited since October 2011 and in March of that year, In The Rooms awarded me their Book of The Month designation. Now, there are over 2,000 readers in USA, Australia, Canada, U.K. and South Africa, with apps for mobiles like pods, pads and phones and E-Book versions on Kindle and Nook.
Wishing all of you the best of contentment – joy in our mutual lives of continued recovery.
March 26, 2012
Softening and Expanding
Being Receptive to What You Want
In a world of harshness, it is time to soften and expand how we go about our life.
In order to get what we want in life, we have to be willing to receive it when it appears, and in order to do that we have to be open. Often we go through life with defenses we developed early on in order to protect ourselves. These defenses act as barriers, walls we needed at one time to feel safe, but that now serve to shut out desired influences, like intimacy or love. So an essential part of being receptive to what we want is to soften these barriers enough to let those things in when they show up. For example, we may spend a lot of time alone as a way to protect ourselves from being hurt by other people, but we can see how this is now preventing us from meeting new friends.
Another obstacle to our receptivity can be our tendency to believe that we have to act aggressively in order to achieve our desired goal. This can cause us to become mono-focused and to fail to see, and be open to, opportunities on the periphery of our vision. So becoming receptive involves a softening of our defenses and a willingness to remain open to possibilities outside our immediate realm of vision. If we are looking for love or friendship, it means first looking within ourselves to see where we are shut down, and second, not getting too fixated on where we might find the love we want. In this way, we become more open as individuals and more expansive in terms of what we see as possible.
Often, the things and people we want to draw into our lives elude us because we are unconsciously blocking them out, either with our defenses, or with tunnel vision that causes us to not see them when they appear. When this is the case, we can take action by exploring and softening our barriers, and expanding our vision to encompass new possibilities. These actions are the essence of receptivity.