Say It Ain’t So,…………..Joe

Before the end

Joe Bodolai died of an apparent suicide in Los Angeles from Anti-Freeze poisoning. That’s what killed him physically today at age 63. He was an alcoholic, a TV writer with SNL and Comedy Network Experience.
His spirit died of alcoholic despondency – you might say he took himself to seriously. Here’s a link to his suicide blog and note, because we all need to be reminded how bad it can get when we try to do it alone. Pacem Eterna Joe.

News, Opinion, and Satire By Joe Bodolai

Carrying the Message: Freedom from Fear vs Freedom from Want

Counting My Blessings 

Diana Krall with thanks to U-Tube

*WARNING: The illustration and text below are copyrighted material and MAY NOT be used without express permission from the author. Violators will be prosecuted to the full extent of the U.S. Laws prohibiting such use!

Practcing his PrinciplesFor Alcoholics and Addicts alike, for all who extend their hand to us for a way out, there is a spiritual solution. One that we live One Day at a Time, as we practice our principles in all the moments of our lives, until they become the guidance system by which we live.We call them the Twelve Steps & Traditions. These classical Spiritual Principles, given from the Four Absolutes of the Oxford Group: Honesty, Purity, Unselfishness and Love are now the spiritual tenets of AA/NA and some say over 200 other worldwide fellowships of recovery.It was that understanding that lead me to write: “Living the 12 Steps of Recovery – One Day at a Time – As It Was in the Beginning.” It is now being used for a daily reference in Australia, Canada, South Africa, 24 American States of the US and the U.K. with recent introductions to the fellowships in Italy, France, Germany and other European Countries.
Original Illustrations and Chapters on Prayer and Meditation as concepts are included in this 461 page work, available from this website in the remaining 200 First Edition Signed un-barcoded originals, and on e-books from KINDLE & NOOK for apps for iPad, iPhone, iPod touch, PC, Mac, Blackberry, and Android-based devices.The book will also be released in Audio and iPhone App Store late this coming Summer.

NOOK 2940012874856

Now, here is a reading from the 12th Step for December 20th:

Freedom from Fear over Freedom from Want

We will find that with God’s help and the calm acceptance of our lives, we can live at peace with ourselves and show others still suffering from fear that they can get over it too. It seems freedom from fear is of far greater importance than freedom from want.
Our improved outlook over problems we had with personal importance, ambition, power, and positions of leadership keeps us off these reefs we once shipwrecked on, crossing the sea of our drinking careers.
Many of us had dreams of becoming president, but as we mature and get older we can smile at our childhood fantasies with a good nature.
Real happiness isn’t found in being the number one man, or even
a top player in the heartbreaking struggle for money, prestige, or romance; but in the contentment found in playing our hand well in
the cards we are dealt. The acceptance of reality and the maintenance of staying right-sized do not mean we give up our ambition; we just keep it from being absurd. It seems eminent psychologists have found in their studies that most alcoholics/addicts were emotionally childish, oversensitive, and prone to grandiosity. Quite naturally, we each have our individual justifications for all those shortcomings. Many of us, having had some years to examine ourselves, have found these doctors were right. Our lives were focused on winning, fame, money, seeking prestige, or romantic possession, and all were based on our tendency
toward unreasonable fears and anxieties. Fear is what we needed to be rid of. Our wants would then disappear simultaneously.

Wishing you all the best of contentment – joy in a life of recovery
Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year!

Arthur Messenger, Author

Time: Counting the Ghosts of Christmas Passing


Paul McCartney – \”Simply Having A Wonderful Christmas Time\”

Are we all like Mad frantic White Hares, forever worrying and fretting while we count minutes, hours and days, weeks, months and years – passing decades,.. lifetimes frittering away while we uselessly tally, ticking-off  their disappearance? Isn’t Christmas and the Holiday Season one of the most frantic countdown’s of all? Does it have to be THAT WAY?

We’re late! So late! For a VERY important date! No time to talk or think – must run – we’re late, ‘Good God’ – WE’RE LATE”!!!


“Oh rats! Rats! HOARDS OF GARBAGE DUMP RAAAAATS”! There’s never enough time to get done what one needs to, ought to or MUST – you know – getting it completely completed,…… finished on time, (and that’s the way everything needs to be wound-up doesn’t it?)

Alice's White Rabbit Checks the Time in Wonderland

BUT then, when it’s not finished – On Time – it doesn’t really matter anymore does it? It’s tooooooo late! AND when things are tooooooo late, they don’t count – they’re moot – they’re no longer important..right? Don’t you see? Of course you do, and if you don’t, well,……look at your watch….it’s already getting – tooooooooo – late!

Were it not for that ever-in-our-consciousness ticking measure of time, we wouldn’t have or ever need words like patience or laziness. Word’s like Procrastination – Sloth’s “easier softer way” – ( isn’t that slogan starting to sound like a singy-song laundry soap Ad?).  Anyway – those time lost words just wouldn’t have a need for ‘language-izing”……. (that’s a word now).

Now, in this life we live (there… see? Some of it just went by again, right in front of us and can never be regained)… there is only so much TIME, and each moment must be savored and scrutinized, then put to it’s fullest potential, it’s highest and greatest use – (you understand that of course having had it harped upon you since birth, like me). FINE! Then let’s break the trend right now. Let’s just purposefully waste some time with a little nostalgic tune:

Otis Redding – \”Sitting On The Dock at the Bay\”

Waiting, unlike Otis, brings the feelings many of us get in the wasting of time are sensations of an overwhelming presence, a restless sense of dread that we should be on our way somewhere or doing something else. Why? Because time seems to be wasting when in fact,….. it’s just passing by. Time: the somber messenger of premonition, change and ultimately – death. Time is living at the pace of the ever-vanishing Present. There is nowhere you aren’t that you absolutely HAVE to be or HAVE to go to, or are late in getting there. There is no frantic rush, in fact we do dis-service to ourselves by upping the pace to a maddened melee, like our friend Alice’s White Rabbit.

Time: a system of accounting for – “What” – the statistical 78 years of life we have from birth? It’s one of the greatest inventions of what I call: Frustration Concepts. We’re constantly accounting for how much we have lost and how much we have left; how we have made use of what is behind us and how we will spend it in our futures. Yet while we are driving ourselves stark-raving-sober doing this, the joy of the present alludes us. Our “Day-Timer” is a credit card, over-limit with time already spent!

All this counting is driving the human race insane- and we’re part of it! Those Sun Dials, Chronometers, Solar Clocks, Watches – we even made them digital so we could be more precise – and what does all of it really mean? NOTHING! Time is one of the joy thieves.

Sooooooooooooooo,….are there an fix-patches for time anxiety – the sense of dread that time is being wasted – the slothful guilt-trip which makes us self-loathing, spiraling into our arch enemy: self-pity? With all that time spent suffering here’s a couple of things that have got to be worth a try.

1) Meditation – this effort allows us to suspend our consciousness from time, as we exert to be in the present. It’s simplest form? Focus on the physical act of breathing, distracting the mind to it. Patience and tolerance are Time Keeper Virtues, for whenever we lose our sense of them we also “lose time and they don’t come easy. They take practice. Lots of it – maybe a lifetime.

I guess the point is – that all we really have is time and there is no real hurry. To adapt to a default posture on this attitude, we need to spend a lot of time reminding ourselves of that,…..“and then there we go again”……wasting time.”  Now if you have great ideas, that’s why you have a space below to comment.

Merry Christmas Everyone! Finished shopping yet? Here are the links for the award winning book: “Living the 12 Steps of Recovery – One Day at a Time – As It Was in the Beginning”

Are – you dreaming of a Spiritual Christmas? 
Just like the one so many know!
Daily Meditations – and illustrations –
with inspirations all aglow!